Your life is what you are used to (the truth is amazing)

British philosopher Francis Bacon once said:

Behavioral scientists have come to the conclusion that only 5% of everyone's behavior is non-habitual, and the remaining 95% of behavior is habitual.

habits affect actions, actions accumulate results, and results determine fate.

good habits can reduce thinking time, simplify the steps of doing things, and improve the efficiency of doing things.

and bad habits, like termites under a riverbank, will only create a gap in the river of life and lose the momentum of rushing forward.

the French writer Zola once expressed such a feeling:

and reflecting on our lives is the product of habits.

01

there is a true story.

one Thursday afternoon, entrepreneur Bill Gates visited a school.

before leaving, he promised to visit the school again on a Thursday afternoon and reward him with a computer if he saw a classmate's desk clean.

at the beginning, every Thursday, the students' desks were very clean, looking forward to being the lucky ones.

however, as time goes by, more and more students begin to relax and stop tidying up at last.

however, one of the boys still insisted on cleaning up his desk and thought: what if Bill Gates comes to school some other time?

so he kept his desk clean every day, a habit he kept until he graduated, but he couldn't wait for Bill Gates to come again.

years later, the boy finally got his wish to see Bill Gates again, not because he sent himself a computer, but because he wanted to buy a 1.6% stake in his company for $240 million.

this boy is the founder of Facebook, Zuckerberg.

when Zuckerberg recalled that he had formed a good habit of persistence because of a sentence from Bill Gates, it played an important role in his later career development.

in addition to forming the good habit of sticking to it as a child, Zuckerberg also maintains efficient time management at work, prioritizes work tasks, or arranges his energy properly.

however, Zuckerberg, who has many good habits, has also had bad habits.

when he was at school, he was very playful, often skipping classes because of playing games, and the frequency was so high that both teachers and classmates were surprised.

it is important for people to have a clear understanding of their habits and to distinguish which are harmful and which are beneficial, so as to regulate themselves flexibly.

all excellent people are not perfect, but let good habits occupy the dominant position in life and live a valuable life.

02

in the movie "the crowd", it tells the story of the exchange of lives between two people.

actor Andy Lau plays Zhou Quan as a serial killer, while Chen Xiaomeng, played by Xiao Yang, is a walk-on small potato in the theater.

that day, because Chen Xiaomeng dropped a piece of soap on the bathhouse floor, Zhou accidentally fell to the ground, hit her head, and completely lost her memory when she woke up.

because of her lust for the famous watch on Zhou Quan's hands, Chen Xiaomeng knew full well that he had amnesia and did not intend to tell the truth. instead, she changed identities with him and turned to live in his luxury house in a comprehensive luxury car.

in this way, when the killer woke up, he was told that he was a walk-on Chen Xiaomeng, so after he was discharged from the hospital, he had to go back to the shabby rental house.

the door of the rental house was opened and a pungent smell rushed out.

the ground is full of litter, clothes and objects, and there is no room for feet at all.

although I have lost my memory, the habit of cleanliness and hygiene that I kept on my body has not been lost.

so when he entered the house, he began to clean up the rubbish on the floor and wash the moldy sheets.

soon, the rental house will take on a new look, completely different from Chen Xiaomeng's time, and has been kept clean and tidy ever since.

and the real Chen Xiaomeng, even if she lives in a suit and clothes, she is still untidy, her life is irregular, and her uncontrolled diet soon turns the huge mansion into a "garbage dump."

although the two people have exchanged lives, they have lived their original lives in a new environment, and have not reaped a different life because of the change in external conditions.

this wonderful ending is entirely due to the deep-rooted habits of the two.

the killer who got the new role in life began to rethink and examine his life, and the new environment made him understand what he really wanted.

and Chen Xiaomeng in the story, even though she has the favorable conditions of the rich, she still lives her life back because of her untidy temperament and depraved daily habits.

in the end, Chen Xiaomeng was killed because it was really difficult to hide her false identity.

although the story takes place in the film, the value and truth conveyed in it are incomparably true.

that is, whatever habits you have, you will have a life.

the writer Thackeray once said:

sowing behavior can reap habits; sowing habits can reap character; sowing character can reap destiny. "

habits determine the state of life, have good habits, it can directly affect the mental outlook you pass on to others.

good habits, let the pace of life follow your own plan and become the way you want it to be.

but bad habits degrade a person's value.

habits are sometimes more stubborn than nature, nowThe habit is the fate of the future.

03

Benjamin Franklin, a philosopher, is famous for his erudition.

but Franklin dropped out of school at the age of ten and had no systematic education.

his father is a painter with seventeen children, and Franklin ranks fifteenth.

because his family was poor, he began to take part-time jobs at the age of ten and developed a lazy personality.

at first, Franklin was a mediocre dawdle who knew nothing about abstinence, diligence, and so on.

however, Franklin accidentally met the apprentice in the bookstore, slowly came into contact with books, and fell in love with reading, as if fascinated.

because he felt the beauty of the words, he began to change himself.

Franklin established for himself 13 principles: abstinence, reticence, order, decisiveness, frugality, diligence, sincerity, justice, moderation, cleanliness, calmness, chastity, and humility.

he wrote down these 13 principles in a notebook for a week, focusing on one exercise until all virtues became ingrained habits.

because of the formation of these habits, Franklin made his own achievements in many fields and became a famous American writer and scientist.

epictetus said:

thus it can be seen that good habits also affect the degree of happiness in life.

many times in life, when I see my mobile phone ringing, I can't help but take a look at it; when a video is fun, I get caught up in brushing it; when I think the game can relax my spirit, I can't help it.

the precious time that should have been cherished is thus wasted minute by minute.

Ten or eight years later, those who have not given up good habits have already become experts in a certain field, while those who indulge themselves and breed bad habits can only bemoan that they have achieved nothing.

it has been said that to gain something is to give up more. Instead of running for the prosperity of others, it is better to manage your own habits.

03

Luo Xiang, a professor at China University of political Science and Law, once said:

when we know that habits have such a great impact on life, it is difficult to change bad habits and stick to good habits

in fact, there are ways to develop good habits.

the Dutch philosopher Erasmus also said:

to form a good habit is to eradicate a bad habit.

and the following three steps to help you understand yourself, develop good habits, stick to good habits, and finally gain a satisfactory life with the blessing of good habits:

recognize your habits

if you want to cultivate good habits and practice good habits, you first need to classify your habits.

We can take out a blank piece of paper, draw a line in the middle, and then clearly write down our good and bad habits on both sides of the line.

calm down and analyze them carefully.

only in this way can you have a clear goal for the action of replacing bad habits with good habits, which is a very important part of changing yourself.

practice deliberately, cultivate a good habit

choose a bad habit and concentrate on getting rid of it.

arrange yourself for the next 21 days to exercise regular restraint so that both the body and brain form a deep memory of it and become part of the behavior.

for example, the writer Haruki Murakami's habit of running was equally painful at the beginning.

he once said frankly: "I finish the whole race every day in the contradiction of thinking that I don't want to run."

the process of turning a bad habit into a good habit is painful, but the formation of a good habit benefits for life.

when a good habit is gradually formed and a natural behavior is formed, the benefits it brings will come naturally.

continue a good habit

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everyone yearns for recognition, and it is human nature to get positive feedback after developing a good habit.

the positive feedback on short-term results is actually support and support for long-term plans.

each time you form a good habit, you can give yourself a reasonable reward according to your own situation.

Don't underestimate this trivial behavior. With positive feedback, it will increase your inner will and desire from the inside out.

invisible, it produces a powerful force.

as a saying goes:

good habits are like surprises on the road of the future. When the time is ripe, there will be heavy fruit and delight.

"Qingyu year" begins with a good saying:

"everyone more or less wants to live again, because there are always too many regrets in life."

therefore, when people live, they should cherish the present and live for the good. "

all goodness is contained in habits, like water worn by drops of water, but also like grinding from an iron pestle into a needle.

believe in the power of habits that can change your life.