Beautiful morning light, accompany you to read.
who doesn't have something to worry about when he is alive.
life is the same. Some people are full of spring breeze every day, while others are bitter and bitter all day long.
the difference is, as one philosopher said:
wise people blossom life out of the mud;
those who lack wisdom always love to do these four things.
the more incompetent people are, the more likely they are to complain.
there was a former colleague who had mediocre working ability, but always liked to complain.
once, the leader put her in charge of an important project, and she patted her chest and promised to finish it.
but in the middle of the project, she encountered a problem, which she could not solve by herself, and did not report it to the leader in time. Only when the deadline was approaching did she hesitate to say that it was not finished yet.
when the leader criticized her, she complained in front of the leader that other colleagues were not working hard, procrastinating and holding her back.
when she left the office, she secretly complained to others that the leader was deliberately finding fault, disrupting her pace of work.
apart from the words, it's all other people's problems, leaving yourself clean.
since then, the leader has never given her an important task again.
watching other colleagues receive new projects one by one, she began to complain that her leaders did not attach importance to her and did not give her a chance to perform.
it wasn't long before she quit her job and left gloomily.
Franklin once said:
those who complain often, in the final analysis, complain about their own incompetence.
for people with strong abilities, if they have problems, they can solve them, and if they have problems, they have nothing to complain about.
while those with poor abilities have no ability and refuse to admit it, they have no choice but to complain about others.
the ability is not terrible, the terrible thing is not to improve their ability, only to complain.
instead of complaining, it is better to change.
as Roman Roland said:
complain less and recharge more when you have time in order to get rid of the endless cycle of complaining and make yourself more optimistic and stronger.
the more ignorant people are, the more they like to argue
have seen such a joke:
there is a man who has not read a book for a few days but thinks he knows everything and likes to argue with others about trifles.
others say that Shakespeare is great, but he says that Shakespeare writes poorly; others say that reading is very important, but he says that no matter how many books he reads, he still can't make money.
one day a man said to him, "I went to a concert by the Doctor Shlomo band yesterday. Their performance was so wonderful!"
he immediately retorted: "this band is really terrible, the work is all plagiarized, and the lead singer's voice is as bad as a crow."
as a result, the other party said faintly, "there is no such band in the world. I made up the name."
there is a "Duck effect" in psychology: people who lack their own abilities are more likely to indulge in illusory advantages created by themselves, often overestimate their own ability and lack the ability to evaluate others objectively.
to put it simply, the more stupid people are, the smarter they think they are; the more ignorant people are, the more likely they are to argue with others.
those who chatter all day are not necessarily knowledgeable; those who argue about everything are often reckless.
the still water runs deep, and the wise man is silent. A true wise man does not refute directly, but only thinks quietly; he can see through at a glance, but seldom says so.
they disdain to argue with others, not to do useless work, but to concentrate on practicing themselves.
meaningless arguments just expose one's ignorance;
it is a sign of wisdom to use your brain more, move your mouth less and keep your mouth from running in front of your brain.
the more people who have no pattern, the more they like to care
like this sentence:
people like to haggle, often because the pattern is so small that they can only see the small profits in front of them, but they can't see the stars and seas in the distance.
like Aunt Zhao in A Dream of Red Mansions, she has to haggle over big things and small feelings, and in the end, she doesn't get any benefits, but ends up being disgusted.
Tan Chun gave Zhao Guoji 20 taels of silver according to the regulations. She ran to make a scene because she was too little, so that Tan Chun could not come to Taiwan.
Fang Guan gave Jia Huan a bag of jasmine powder, and she ran to Fang Guan to fight, but was finally beaten by a group of little girls.
on the other hand, Baochai never saw her argue or argue with anyone, but she won the unanimous respect of the Jia family.
Daiyu deliberately satirized her, and she pretended not to hear her;
Baoyu compared her to Yang Fei who had offended her, and she just knocked with a needle in her pocket.
in the end, even Daiyu, who had a grudge against her at first, was convinced and became a good friend with her.
Baochai's leisurely atmosphere, in the final analysis, comes from the inner pattern.
in her mind, she knows very well what she wants and what she doesn't want, so that she can be calm and laugh about the little things that don't matter.
most of the time, people are unhappy not because they get too little, but because they care too much.
people with small patterns don't like anything, and everyone seems to owe them, so life is naturally getting worse and worse.
and people with a large pattern, they don't care about the little things and the big things are not ambiguous, so that they can make life easier and better.
instead of worrying about trifles, it is better to settle down and improve your pattern and vision.
as you stand higher and higher, the scenery you see will naturally get better and better.
the more stupid people are, the more likely they are to lose their temper.
there is a psychological point of view: when people lose their temper, their IQ will become lower than usual, so they often do some irrational behavior.
this sentence is also true in reverse. The more stupid a person is, the more likely he is to lose his temper.
I have seen such a story:
A young actor took part in a business show and found that his name was written at the back.
she was so angry that she found the staff and threatened to go on strike.
the staff apologized again and again, but she still refused to forgive.
unexpectedly, her domineering appearance was photographed and posted online with the title "18-line young actors playing big names and making a scene of the commercial performance".
followed by a flood of ridicule and abuse on the Internet, the partners terminated the contract one after another, and the starlet's star career came to an abrupt end.
for a small name, but lost his career, it is not worth the loss, extremely stupid.
people must insult themselves, and then others will insult them. Lose your temper for a while, but the price after losing your temper is much higher than the pleasure of that moment.
people with real brains know how to calculate the cost and expected effect of doing something.
losing one's temper not only cannot solve practical problems, but also hurts other people's face, angers one's own body, leaves a bad impression on others, and affects future relations and cooperation.
that's why the smarter you are, the calmer you are, and the stupider you are.
when Yao Ming first arrived in the NBA, he was humiliated by star Buckley: "if Yao Ming can score 19 points in a game, I will kiss the ass."
instead of flying into a rage, Yao Ming responded tactfully: "then I'll score 18 points in every game."
later, Yao Ming trained hard and won 20 games in one game, and Barkley really kissed the donkey's ass in public, and the two laughed off the feud ever since.
as the old saying goes:
losing your temper is an instinct, but controlling one's temper is the skill.
being a wise man with no temper and ability is more effective than losing his temper for many times.
Ibsen has a famous saying: "Life is like a ship, everyone must be prepared to take the helm."
Life is a long voyage, and the rudder is in your hands. Where you will go depends entirely on what you do.
people who only spread negative energy but do not solve problems will only narrow the road and fall into a vicious circle.
and the really strong ones, no matter how difficult they encounter, will always be optimistic and will come to cover the water and sail farther away.
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for the rest of your life, may you complain less and exercise more; argue less and learn more;
worry less and improve the pattern more; lose your temper less and be wiser.
if this is the case, the scenery on the road in the future will be infinitely good.