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I have heard such a funny story:
an aunt was walking in the square and saw an old man writing big characters on the ground with a sponge pen.
the old man glanced at his aunt and wrote the word "roll". As soon as she saw it, the aunt got angry and thought, "do you want to take a look?"
the old man looked at his aunt again and wrote the word "get out" again. The old woman couldn't help it any longer and kicked the old man to the ground.
when passers-by asked what was going on, the old man said aggrieved, "I just wanted to write 'Rolling the Yangtze River to the East', but as soon as I wrote two words, I was kicked down by this psychopath."
although the story is ridiculous, it makes people laugh and sigh.
there is a good saying: be angry for three moments and wait for three days.
it illustrates a simple way of doing things: don't be impatient, be patient for three moments, and wait for three days.
if you put up with things that make people angry, you will become much calmer and will not do something wrong on impulse;
if you encounter something in trouble, wait a moment, gather your mind and then make a decision before you can deal with it rationally.
be angry for three moments
A few days ago, I saw such a thing on Weibo: a couple in Linfen, Shanxi Province, were so excited about their quarrel that they set their car on fire. Even so, the two were still angry. Instead of fighting the fire, they started to move their hands in front of the burning car.
the result not only attracted people as a laughingstock, causing traffic jams, but also attracted law enforcement officers.
some netizens commented like this: impulse is the devil, and you should not set fire to the car anyway. In case of an explosion, you will hurt yourself and others, and the consequences will be unimaginable.
think about it, it is true that the couple quarrel is a trivial matter. Because they can't stand it, the trivial things become bigger and cause a vicious incident.
fortunately, there were no casualties, otherwise it would be too late to repent.
Feng Menglong said in the constant words of awakening the World: if you don't think twice, there will be regrets, and people can endure a hundred things without worry.
the consequences of emotional loss of control are small, disorderly and undignified, while large ones can lead to disaster and even lifelong regret.
in the movie Let bullets fly, there is such a plot: Liuzi ate a bowl of cold noodles, and the owner of the cold powder shop was blackmailed by Hu Wan, the butler of Huangfu, framing him for eating two bowls but giving only one bowl of money.
Liuzi felt greatly insulted and insisted that he had only eaten one bowl.
Hu Wan stimulated him to say, "obviously you ate two bowls, but you only paid for one bowl. isn't that bullying honest people?"
Liuzi completely collapsed, took out a knife and cut open his stomach to prove his innocence.
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before he died, Hu Wan smiled proudly and said, "I know you only ate one bowl. I just want to see your ending now."
the result of Liuzi's impulse is that not only did he fall into the trap of others, but his own behavior also became meaningless. instead of sympathizing with him, people thought he was stupid and broke up after watching.
only he himself paid a heavy price for his actions and lost his life in vain.
Confucius said, "tolerance is the foundation of a hundred actions."
if a person is a slave to emotion, he can only be happy for a while, but the trouble will be endless;
and put up with it when he is angry, and when he is calm, he can distinguish the pros and cons and make a correct judgment.
wait for three days
as the ancients said: urgent things change, slow things go round.
this is a warning to people that things should be done slowly rather than urgently.
there is such a short story: once upon a time, a man came across a precious purple sand teapot and loved it so much that he even put it at the head of his bed at night. Unexpectedly, one night, he turned over in his sleep and knocked the teapot over and the lid fell to the ground.
when he woke up, he was very annoyed and thought to himself that the lid was gone. What was the use of keeping the kettle?
so he grabbed the teapot and threw it out the window.
unexpectedly, after dawn, he found that the lid of the pot happened to fall on the cotton-padded shoes without the slightest damage.
the man regretted it, and thought that the teapot was gone, so what was the use of keeping the lid, so he stepped on the lid and smashed it to pieces.
walking out the door, the man looked up and suddenly saw the teapot thrown last night hanging intact on the branch.
after reading this story, I can't help feeling sorry for this man.
although it had happened, he still had two chances to be saved, but he was squandered by his eagerness and haste.
Zeng Guofan said: "everything must be dealt with peacefully and gently. If you are in a hurry, you may make a mistake."
wait for everything, don't make blind decisions, and give yourself more time to be calm and sober, there may be a different turn for the better.
Heiko Nakamura, the author of "the World is worth it", is a woman who never makes her life messy.
she believes that there is always a solution to things, but it takes a little time, don't rush for a while, and you must slow down, otherwise it will make your brain tired, and even if you put a lot of effort into it, it will be difficult to come up with good ideas.
so, even if something big happens, she will go to bed first and tell herself "we'll think about it when we wake up tomorrow."
after a good night's sleep, the exhaustion of the brain is swept away, new and positive ideas emerge, and the point of view of the problem changes.
"University" said: "know the stop and then have a decision, set and then be quiet, quiet and then be at ease, and then be able to worry, worry and then get."
if you encounter something, like Heiko Nakamura, don't act in haste.
know how to slow down when something happens, and only by dealing with it slowly can your heart be calm.To be able to be calm and calm; to be calm and calm to be able to think carefully; to be thoughtful to gain something.
in this way, many things will be solved satisfactorily.
whenever his subordinates make mistakes and cause losses to the company, he refuses to report the details to him.
then he begins to make tea, drink tea or brush calligraphy and painting, or take a walk downstairs in the garden, wait for his peace of mind, and then ask his subordinates to report to the office.
the reason why he does this is to digest his bad emotions, and once he realizes that his anger is about to erupt, he takes the initiative to find a buffer for himself.
Wang Yangming once said, "if you can control yourself, you can become yourself."
A man can achieve himself only if he can restrain himself.
this is inseparable from two words: patience and stability.
there is a good saying: "boiling water can not see the reflection clearly, anger can not see the truth."
when a man is angry, he loses his mind, just like rolling boiling water; when he is stable, he can control the situation, like a calm lake.
and boiling water can not see the reflection of people clearly, only the calm surface of the water can see clearly.
therefore, all mature and rational people can put up with it when they have emotions and give themselves a little time to calm down;
when something happens, they can also stabilize themselves, put them down in advance, and let themselves rest for a while. Will not be easily disturbed.
the reason for "being angry for three moments and waiting for three days" is that only in this way can we become a winner because of patience and become a great event because of stability.